be more like khadija you say?
ok b, lemme get married twice, take over my second husband’s business and turn it into a raging success, have all the rich men in my town want me, but at 40 - I’ll marry the hot 25 year old who works for me and who loves me unconditionally and we’ll pop out 6 children like no problemo son this sounds like the dream why would i ever disagree
Be kind to yourself. Stop telling yourself that whatever you are struggling with “should” be easy. If something is hard for you, it is hard for you. There are probably Reasons, though those may just be how you are wired. Acknowledge these things. When you finish something hard, be proud! Celebrate a little.
And really, just stop saying “should” to yourself about your thoughts and feelings in any context. You feel how you feel. The things in your head are the things in your head. You can’t change either directly through sheer force of will. You can only change what you do. Stop beating yourself up for who and what you are right now–it isn’t productive. Focus on moving forward."
We must be strong women in this dunyah.
Strong in the we know our rights & fulfill our obligations. So that we don’t let anyone cross the line or try to force us to do what we don’t have to do.
It’s perfectly fine to be nice and sweet, but the minute someone tries to force you to do something that Allaah azza wa jalla from all the way above the seven skies did not make obligatory on you, you show them who’s boss.